Last night I was a victim of bullying. It wasn't as bad as others have had it but bullying in any form is not right. It doesn't matter how much or how little, bullying is bullying and it effects people in many ways. Someone that I had considered a friend attacked one of my shirt designs because she didn't like the wording. I stood up for my product then deleted the comments and blocked the person on fb and ig. This person then went to Twitter and attacked me personally. Even going so low as to attacking the fact that I am having fertility problems and that she hopes that I never get pregnant. This is a person I considered a friend, She stooped so low to say such vile things. Other people on Twitter saw what she said and stood up for me. I am beyond grateful that they did this. I am at loss as to how someone can say such vile things and not have one hint of remorse. To say that you hope I never become pregnant is beyond heartbreaking. I'm not sure what's worse, the things she said or that she was a "friend".
How it started was over a freaking shirt, yes you heard that right a shirt!! She didn't like the wording on one of MY shirt designs. I posted the shirt on my instagram she then proceeded to say it was wrong, (in hindsight I probably should have deleted the comment) I defended the design, she went postal from that point on. I deleted the comments at that point, blocked her on instagram and Facebook. she then decided to take it to Twitter. Then she kept trying justify what she said by saying I spoke ill of her pregnancy, I NEVER once spoke ill, I knew her struggle. I have a whole bunch of stuff I could have pulled on her but never did, I am not going to stoop to her level. She kept calling me names like cunt and moron ect. I reported the tweets, then once people noticed what she said and started to back me she deleted most of the tweets to make it look like we were attacking her. Everyone has screenshots!!!
Yes I post my journey on my blog, I post so others know they are not alone not to use it as a weapon against me. I did nothing wrong!!! I was defending my product. The moment I read it I literally dropped my phone. The fact that someone can say that and not have any remorse baffles me. Like my heart literally hurts. I don't get it how someone can think it's ok to say things like that. To be so malicious with your words and have no remorse is beyond me.
Honestly I feel bad for her and for all the bullies out there. They obviously are struggling with something in their lives to act this way towards people.
What Is Cyber Bullying?
Cyber bullying is bullying through email, instant messaging (IMing), chat room exchanges, Web site posts, or digital messages or images send to a cellular phone. Cyber bullying, like traditional bullying, involves an imbalance of power, aggression, and a negative action that is often repeated.
Cyber bullying in its simplest form takes place between two people through email, instant messaging, or phone texting. But to be fully satisfying to the genuine bully, there has to be an audience; thus, he elevates the bullying to social media, Twitter, or a comment forum. In this way, the humiliation is public and twice as shaming. And the bully can perform at his sadistic best (or worst) before like-minded aggressors.
Trolls
Adult cyber bullying often takes the form of “trolling.” The word comes from a reference to the method of catching fish by trolling a baited line in the water and waiting for a fish to bite. In the same sense, the Internet troll tries to “catch” an unsuspecting victim to demean and humiliate. Trolls are an annoying problem for those who use the Internet regularly. They are present on social media and in the comments sections of various websites, articles, blogs, and other online forums.
Stats
Nearly 75 percent of American adults have witnessed online harassment, with 40 percent seeing the brunt of that cyberbullying, according to a survey on the subject by the Pew Research Center.
When it came to observing others:
- 60 percent said they witnessed someone being called offensive names
- 53 percent saw efforts to purposefully embarrass someone
- 25 percent witnessed someone being harassed for a sustained period of time
- 24 percent saw someone being physically threatened
- 19 percent said they witnessed someone being sexually harassed
- 18 percent said they saw someone stalked
Of those who personally experienced cyberbullying:
- 27 percent were called offensive names
- 22 percent had someone try to purposefully embarrass them
- 8 percent were physically threatened
- 8 percent were stalked
- 7 percent were harassed for a sustained period
- 6 percent were sexually harassed
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