Wednesday, January 10, 2018

Postpartum Depression or Just Overwhelmed?

Motherhood is hard enough without having to deal with postpartum depression. Everything that makes being a mother so wonderful can also make it the most stressful and difficult job on the planet. And, for those of you who say motherhood is not a job, you are probably not a mother. Women with postpartum depression have the usual feelings of soreness and tiredness of just having a baby plus feelings of extreme anxiety, worthlessness, guilt, sadness, and even suicidal thoughts. But, how do you know whether you have postpartum depression or are just stressed out from the usual new mother activities and hormonal fluctuations?
Symptoms of Postpartum Depression
Up to 20% of new mothers experience postpartum depression. That is approximately 900,000 women in the United States every year. According to the American Psychological Association, about one out of every seven women experience postpartum depression at some point in their lives. There are serious differences between postpartum depression and normal stress or anxiety. Some of the most common symptoms of postpartum depression include:
  • Feelings of sadness, hopelessness, and being overwhelmed
  • Bouts of aggression or crying for no apparent reason
  • Sleeping less or more than usual, unable to stay asleep
  • Extreme fatigue or no energy at all
  • Difficulty concentrating
  • Memory loss
  • Trouble making decisions
  • Loss of interest in things that you usually enjoy
  • Vague aches, pains, and digestive disturbances
  • Loss of appetite or eating more than usual
  • Avoiding people or public places
  • Inability to bond with your baby
  • Afraid to be alone with your baby
  • Thinking you are not a good mother
  • Periods of rage or anger for no reason
  • Not wanting to care for your baby
  • Thinking about hurting yourself or your baby
Get Some Help
You do not have to face this alone. Talk to someone right away even if it is a stranger. Some women feel so guilty about feeling this way that they are unable to talk to anyone about it. However, you should not feel guilty since this is not your fault. Postpartum depression is usually caused by an imbalance in your hormones or chemical imbalance in the brain. It is a common occurrence that often goes overlooked unless something tragic happens. Do not wait until something horrible happens. Talk to someone now to get the help you need. If you do not want to talk to someone you know, you can speak to a professional online who can help you. Online therapy is easy, very affordable, and you do not even need to leave your home. You can talk to someone today and do not even need an appointment. 

If you or someone you love has thoughts of suicide or harming someone else, you can call the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention at 1-888-333-2377 or the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255.

Tuesday, January 9, 2018

A Long Time

Wow its been a while since the last time I blogged. I decided to take a step back and focus on the twins.  A lot has happened in that time.

So our son was diagnosed with torticollis and required PT. Basically what happened is he ran out of room and was unable to move his head and neck a lot so his muscles in his neck and trunk were not strong.  We had pt once a week for about 7 months. Boy was that a long 7 months. There were times where we all thought he wasn't getting better, then one day it all clicked and everything fell into place.

In September our daughter had a seizure out of nowhere. It was single handedly the scariest moments of my life!!!!! She was rushed to the hospital for monitoring. Ultimately it was determined to be a fluke. She hasn't had one since and we are so beyond grateful that it hasn't happened again.

Brand Rep
Since I am now a SAHM and the twins are so beyond adorable, I decided to get the into brand repping. What is brand repping? Well we are on teams for small shops/handmade shops, we help them promote their business by taking pictures of the twins in their items and help spread their name on all social media fronts. I will start doing reviews and posts about brands we rep for. We are currently on 5 teams at the moment.

We went on our first family vacation. We went to Disney World.  We had an amazing time.  It was also the twins' first time on an air plane and they did amazing. We are lucky enough to be able to have Military rates for Disney, making our trip affordable. We got the military rate rooms (they have select number of rooms at each resort for the military rate, so book fast), we stayed at All Star Movies. It's one of the value resorts, but don't let that fool you it was really nice, the cast members were all so amazing. We also were able to get the Salute The Troops Hopper Tickets, these are multi-day passes at a very discounted price. If we weren't able to get these there would have been no way that this vacation would have been affordable for us. We also purchased Disney gift cards, we used these for anything we wanted to buy while there, this made it so we knew what we were spending as well as not using our credit cards. Lets face it things add up and you don't realize until its too late so we wanted to be able to spend freely and not have to worry.

Sunday, March 26, 2017

Finding yourself

I've been gone for awhile and a lot has happen...... which kind of leads me to the topic of this post. 

Something happens when a women becomes a mother, I don't know how or why, or hell I don't even know when it happens but it happens. You loose yourself. Your no longer (insert name here), you are now so and so's mother. Everything you do, everything you are is no longer for you. The things you enjoyed prior to becoming a mother you tell yourself that you will get back into it, once they nap, once they get on a schedule, once everyone goes to bed. But let's be honest that never happens. When they are napping you find yourself trying to catch up on house work, when you finally get them on a schedule you now have more things around the house that needs to be done, when everyone goes to bed so do you. It's a never ending cycle. 

I have found this even more of a struggle for myself as prior to having the twins I had a job, hell I've had a job since I was 15, that's half my life!!! Now all of the sudden not only am a mother I am a stay at home mom. As much as I love it, I also want to scream inside as I have lost my identity. It's taken me 5 months to get it back, I still don't fully have it back, it's going to be a slow process. 

I closed my Etsy shop down to be able to focus on the twins for a bit and I will admit it's been closed down for far too long now, it was never meant to be closed this long but like I said you loose yourself. I have slowly been getting back into my studio (when the twins allow it). And let me just say when I get into my makers zone it's amazing, I never grow old of that feeling. 

Don't get me wrong I love every minute of being a mom, it's just why does this mostly only happen to women?  Don't we deserve to have an identity to ourselves? Why are we the ones that are expected to give up everything about ourselves?  

Guys you need to help your women!!! You need to encourage and help them get back into what they loved doing. Loosing your identity is hard!! Support them, make them not feel bad for taking 5minutes to ourselves.

So how do you find your new identity?? The answer is actually simple but achieving it is not as simple.  You just have to find time for yourself. Do the things you love to do. Once you become a mother some of the things you enjoyed to do prior may not be what you enjoy now and thats fine. It's going to be trial and error when it comes to these things. But trust me you need to do it for your sanity. Remember a happy and healthy mama in turn helps make babies happy and healthy.  Once you start making time for yourself and doing the things you enjoy you will start to feel so much better about yourself. As comfortable as leggings are and as easy as putting your hair up in that mom bun do you really want that to be your everyday look?? Put those jeans on, let your hair down have a little fun!! I myself am still struggling with this part as LuLaRoe is so comfy!!!!!!But at least I feel comfy and confident in a lot of my LLR (I have more than just leggings lol). 

So as I start to find my new identity I have learned I still love to blog and be in my craft studio. I am hoping to open my easy shop back up in the next few weeks. This is going to be hard as the twins love keeping me on my toes with their schedules. I also plan to blog at least twice a week from here on out. 

What are some things that have helped you find your new identity??

Thursday, December 22, 2016

Milky Mama Brand Ambassador

Earlier in the week we were selected to be a brand ambassador for an amazing lactation treat company, Milky Mama. We are so excited to be apart of this company. 

This next part is about the company and it's straight from their website:

Milky Mama was created by Krystal Nicole Duhaney, a Registered Nurse and breastfeeding mommy of two. After having her second child and returning to work, Krystal struggled with her milk supply and realized that there were very few resources for breastfeeding mothers in the same predicament. She knew then that she had to come up with a solution that would help to increase her milk supply!

Using her knowledge as a Registered Nurse and love for baking, Duhaney developed a milk-making cookie recipe and fell in love with the results. This lactation cookies dramatically increased her supply. Soon after, she decided that she could not keep her discovery a secret and had to share this with other mothers who were going through a similar situation. So, in November of 2015, Milky Mama was born.

Today, Milky Mama's product line includes All-Natural cookies, brownies (which are Krystal’s favorite), emergency brownies,  lactation oatmeal, tropical iced tea, lactation lemonade, and lactation smoothie mix. 

Along with offering tasty treats and beverages, Milky Mama has also generated a following of women who help support each other and other women on their journey. “It was also important for me to create a village of support, because I needed it and I craved it. Having the extra support is so vital. It is heartwarming and a huge passion of mine to give breastfeeding support. I receive so many responses from customers sharing their experience and because they eat my treats they are going strong with lactation. It’s so amazing what a little extra support can do.” Milky Mama facilitates weekly Facebook chats and a lactation support group.

I love that this company not only has amazing treats but also has lactation support. They don't see their customers as a number, they see them as a warrior providing for their babies..... you don't see many companies doing this. 

So we have decided a few times a week over the next 30 days we will introduce a product as well as a breastfeeding/pumping tip for all you milky mamas out there. 

Emergency Brownies
These brownies are so yummy!!! They are to give you that extra boost when you are stressed or your supply has tanked for whatever reason. 

Power Pumping 
For those pumping mamas that are struggling, I suggest power pumping. My left is my slacker and with the help of doing this it is starting to catch up to the right. We still have a ways to go. 

I pump and nurse. Please don't get down on yourself when you feel like you aren't doing as well as other mamas. Any breast milk is awesome no matter how much. You are a warrior and you are doing awesome mama!!!

If you would like to try Milka Mama click here and you will get 10% off your order. 



Monday, November 21, 2016

5 Must Haves for Twin Parents

*These are my 5 must haves right now with our twins.*


1. Fisher Price Rock n Plays. Our twins are rollers so this is a safe option for us right now. Plus they can be in the room with us and once we transfer them to their nursery they hopefully will already be used to sleeping separately since they each have their own cribs. 

2. Hands free pumping/nursing tank. I love this tank top. When I'm not nursing, I'm pumping and having this tank frees up my hands to actually do things like eat (since we all know being a new mom eating is last on our list). 

3. Wubbanub. Due to being in the NICU our babies are paci babies. The NICU gives them pacis when they are taking tests or anything to help keep the crying to a minimum. And of course our babies don't like just any pacies right now, they like the jelly type. 

4. Baby Swing. These things are a staple in our house. Both babies love the swings and it helps us be able to be semi productive. 

5. Contours Options Tandem Stroller. Let's face it having twins means you now have to have the tuna boat of strollers. My biggest advice is to go to the store and play with the strollers and find the one that works for you. I loved this one because it is light weight compared to some of the other twin strollers. It's also easier to maneuver. 





Every November 11th, we honor our military veterans and families that served in the Armed Forces and commend the immense number of sacrifices of each and every one of our service members, Armistice Day was created in 1918, on the eleventh hour of the eleventh day of the eleventh month that marked the end the fighting of World War I. 

Armistice Day was officially made into a legal national holiday on May 13th, 1938. In 1954, following the end of WWII, the 83rd Congress voted to officially rename the holiday to include all factions of the armed services. November 11th, 1954 was observed as the first official Veterans Day, in honor of American veterans of all wars. In President Dwight D. Eisenhower’s Veterans Day Proclamation on October 8th 1954 he addressed the nation saying:

“In order to insure proper and widespread observance of this anniversary, all veterans, all veterans' organizations, and the entire citizenry will wish to join hands in the common purpose.” 

So this Veterans Day we stand united, under one flag, and celebrate the liberty and justice that the men and women of our armed services have dedicated their lives to defending. The month of November is our chance as citizens to honor the sacrifice and commitment of our service members and service families alike. 

In celebration of Veterans Day this year, SimpliSafe is connecting with these men and women that are our serving or have served our country to give away 50 wireless security systems to help protect their homes! To enter for your chance to win, nominate your service hero here by midnight on November 21st, 2016! 

Friday, November 11, 2016

The Reality of My Conditions

I have had multiple people ask me what exactly Idiopathic thrombocytopenic purpura is. 

Idiopathic thrombocytopenic purpura (ITP) is a disorder that can lead to easy or excessive bruising and bleeding. The bleeding results from unusually low levels of platelets — the cells that help blood clot. 
Normal platelet levels are 150,000; mine were 40,000 prior to going into the operating room. So the reason they put me to sleep vs doing a spinal was fear of bleed out since my blood wouldn't clot on its own. Due to my levels being so low I was put in a magnesium drip to prevent seizures, I had to be on this for 24hrs. They also did a platelet fusion in surgery to help my number go up so that my blood could clot. I was also put on Pitocin to make my cervix contract to help with clotting. For the first 24hrs after surgery I was monitored with blood work every few hours. They needed to see if my platelets would go up on their own, unfortunately I needed to have another fusion as my numbers were now lower than they were prior to surgery, 33,000. I was not allow to go to the NICU more so due to my magnesium drip. If you have ever been on one then you'll understand, but for those that haven't, basically it makes you so out of it. You are constantly dozing off and very weak. Thank god I had the nurse that I did because she knew just how bad I wanted to see the babies so she promised after the second fusion that she would take me up there for a few minutes. 

Due to the ITP I also had Hellp Syndrome, which is the highest from of preeclampsia. 
H (hemolysis, which is the breaking down of red blood cells)
EL (elevated liver enzymes)
LP (low platelet count)

I litterally had barely any indication that I had either of these things. My urine came back with nothing, my blood pressure was slightly elevated but nothing to be too concerned of on its own, the reason that the blood test was ran initially was due to my rib pain that I was having. With both of these I was so bad that everyone was perplexed as to how I was functioning and didn't have more signs. If we hadn't of gone into the hospital that night everything could have turned fatal. I ended up loosing a lot of blood while I'm surgery, however not enough to need a blood transfusion. 

Everything that day was so beyond scary and the fact that my husband couldn't come into the operating room made things more scary for me. Would I die alone? Would my babies be ok? This can't be how our journey ends! These thoughts and more kept running through my head. 

I am so beyond grateful for my team of doctors they held my hands to help calm me down once I got into the operating room all the way until I was put under. They even made sure that I wasn't alone and saw familiar faces when I woke up since my husband was in the NICU with the babies. 

The best advice I have for anyone that is pregnant is you know your body, you know when something is off, don't be worried about going to labor and delivery. That is what they are there for, to make sure everything is ok with you and your babies. One small thing can turn into a huge thing in a matter of minutes.